Have you loved your true self, or have you packed them aside to do what’s being done?
Meeting your true self is one thing…
But living as that person? That’s a whole different story.
Because let’s be honest—sometimes, we struggle to be ourselves. Not because we don’t know who we are, but because we’ve immersed ourselves so deeply into believing we have to be a certain way.
What if self-love isn’t about “becoming better”?
What if it’s about unbecoming everything they told you to be?
If you had no chance to change who you are right now, would you say you have self-love?
What if it’s about seeing yourself, fully—flaws, fears, fire, and all…
And deciding that you are still worth loving?
I’m genuinely grateful that I’ve taken the time to question so many things in my life—especially why I’ve felt the need to do things a specific way. Some things worked out, some didn’t. But above all, I’m happy that I never had many moments where I felt I had to bend myself just to be.
The reason I left corporate, and why I dread going back, is because I didn’t like the feeling of detaching from myself just to matter in that space.
Yes, I met myself a while back. But I didn’t live as her for quite some time. I did, however, protect her. I never forced myself to do things that didn’t align with who I was.
I didn’t have sex in high school just because everyone else was doing it.
I didn’t go to spaces where I felt pressured to drink more, smoke, or dress a certain way just to fit in.
I didn’t force myself into groups that overwhelmed me.
And I don’t say this from a place of perfection, but from a place of understanding—because I know how easy it is to lose yourself in a world that keeps telling you who to be.
That’s why my first ebook had to be about self-discovery. Because everything we seek in life truly stems from our most authentic selves.
But it’s unfortunate. Society often pushes us to become something else because life seems easier, more glamorous, or more acceptable when we follow the mold.
But in my ideal world…
A man who simply wants to wake up, plough his land, sell his crops, and live a quiet farm life with his woman (if she likes it)—is just as valid.
Yet, we get so caught up in expectations, in who we are supposed to be, that we miss out on who we truly are.
So, I’ll ask again—have you met yourself?
And more importantly…
Have you lived that person?
If not, what would it take?
Because maybe self-love isn’t about changing anything at all.
Maybe it’s about finally allowing yourself to be